How To Repair After a Fight - Jayson Gaddis

Most people have no clue how to repair after a fight. Time to get some basic skills so you don't make it worse.
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believe me I've plenty of time I've got
a lot of skill if I try to the
intellectual approach and I just do the
formula with my wife and I'm not here
it doesn't work it falls short so you
want to be in your body in your heart as
much as possible and the most mature
person needs to lead this conversation
that's the person who's got the most
internal resources online who's willing
to come to the table first and say yup
my bad I did this and a lot of couples
will do tit for tat why lid first last
time and it's you need to finally
apologize to me it's you want to get out
of that game okay that's really childish
whoever's most mature if you happen to
do it a hundred times in a row big deal
you're the more mature one that's more
resourced that's okay you're leading
that conversation that's great all right
so this is really key with parents also
if you're a parent you want to be the
person to lead the charge on how to
repair with your kids you raise your
voice your kid you scare them you go up
to them and you just own it I raised my
voice at you I scared you make sense
that your you got scared you're upset
now
and daddy's here I'm safe it's okay you
tell me if there's anything else you
want to tell me about how you feel and
then we repair and now we're cool again
so repairing is critical all right
hopefully this has been helpful and
we'll see you next time