How to Be More Confident: STOP LYING TO YOURSELF!

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The promises you make to yourself have to be kept.

The promises you make to yourself, that is, the thing you set out to do or tell yourself that you will do, even if it’s but a thought in a moment that soon passes, are incredibly important. They need to be kept.

The more you lie to yourself, by telling yourself you’ll do things that you don’t do – a trip, a business to start, book to read, workout to go on etc… – the more you weaken your resolve and your belief in yourself.

Be very careful, not necessarily about the promise made, make audacious promises, but keep them. Always, always, always, always keep the promises you make to yourself.

If you say you’ll do something – even internally – do it. Always.

Do what you say you’re going to do. If you do that for a long enough time, you’re really setting yourself apart from every other human on the planet. You’re becoming a better human. The results will be incredible.

Small daily decisions are incredibly important.

In the same light, even little decisions you make every day are incredibly important.

The decision to check your phone when you’re working, that’s a habit-forming decision that will be repeated. We could list hundreds of small, seemingly insignificant decisions that we all make every single day where we know the correct decision but do the wrong on anyway.

They’re all important.

Be making the right decisions daily we literally become better humans. We become elite, high-performing individuals and it has nothing to do with talent or a gift or a hand-out, or even ‘hard work’, it’s just doing the correct behavior every time we’re faced with an opposite option.

Give each decision the importance it deserves, and choose correctly.

Past mistakes don’t necessarily apply to current decisions.

We have to be careful not to apply a past lesson to a present situation even if they appear the same.

Different relationships require different actions and decisions and they have to be dealt differently. To have one useless lady that you’ve gone out with doesn’t mean that every other one will be the same, or that they should be treated the same, or that situations within that relationship are the same.

Be careful when making decisions that you don’t allow past biases to influence your current decision.

Most limitations are self-imposed.

We tell ourselves stories about who we are and what we can do. They’re wrong. They’re degraded versions of our true potential, but also of the amount we can endure.

We think we can’t handle this or can’t achieve that, do deep down we don’t give it the effort or discipline we deserve. We sabotage our efforts to fit the stories we’re telling ourselves.

Identify the stories you tell yourself, be aware of them, or just deal with the present and do the best you can with what you have, where you are, as Theodore Roosevelt said.

It’s all b.s., these limitations that we impose on ourselves. We have to understand that this negative self-talk is bullshit, and everyone has it. It doesn’t matter if it’s some loser who drinks himself to sleep everyday or some winner who’s killing it in nearly every area of life, that negative self-talk, that imposter syndrome is a constant.

So what gives?

It may be there, but you don’t have to believe it or listen to it. What you do is more important than that stupid story you and I tell ourselves.

We’ve created an identity that isn’t necessarily real, thus, it can be changed in whichever manner we’d like to change it.
Our view of ourselves is subjective and limited. It’s formed by who raised us, the conversations we’ve had over our lifetime, the things we’ve done and even the things we haven’t done.

It’s acted out in our performance. We don’t quite give everything we have because we don’t feel worthy of what we’re aiming for, or we simply aim for less, or we’re afraid of the work toll that’ll come if we actually get what we want.

It’s shown and heard in our self-talk, when we tell ourselves we’re this or that, not good enough, not whatever enough. (outlived Hank and Jesus)

It’s all subjective, it’s all lies, it can be changed, it must be changed.

We change it in many ways, correcting our self-talk, but also forming the right habits, thinking about our goals, making them bigger, and following through on our promises to ourselves.

We can change our perception of ourselves by listening to ourselves, journaling, and changing our behavior, by doing rather than being lazy, by following through on what we say we’re going to do.

This must be done if we’re to succeed. Or else we’ll continue to sabotage any and every effort at success.