How To Be Single (For Women)

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This is going to be a bit different from my usual videos. I’ve made so many videos about how to get the guy you want so now it’s time for the complete opposite. I’m going to tell you how to be single.


Hi, I’m Amy North, world-renowned relationship and love coach and author of The Devotion System and Text Chemistry.

So if I’m a relationship expert then why am I telling you how to be single? Well being single is a reality for so many women out there. Even though you will eventually find long lasting love, in the meantime, you need to learn to be happy on your own.

Not only will this improve your quality of life, it will make you a more attractive partner to the right guy and it will even make you a BETTER partner when you do finally get together for good. If you’ve seen any of my videos you know that independence and happiness are extremely attractive and they’re also achievable.

First off, let’s look at the positive side of being single.

If you’re a subscriber to my channel, chances are you know the benefits of a romantic relationship. But what about the benefits of being single?

In a word… freedom. Being single is all about being free. You can do anything you want, whenever you want without having to consider your man’s needs. While an ideal relationship won’t force you to change yourself or your lifestyle, there is no such thing as a relationship without compromise. But when you’re single, you don’t have to compromise. Being single is a chance to decide what you want, and figure out your own priorities. Once you’ve figured out how to exist as a singleton, it’ll be much easier to figure out how to integrate a partner into your life.

Another benefit of being single is that you get to know yourself. Think about those people you know who jump from relationship to relationship, never able to be alone for any length of time. Does that sound familiar? The world is a lonely place but if you can’t be comfortable alone, then a relationship isn’t going to save you. If you can learn how to be happy and single then you can hold out for the relationship you really want and deserve.

Finally, being single is being able to decide your own future. The security of a relationship is a powerful thing, but so is being able to completely change the direction of your life whenever you want. You want to suddenly move to China and open a llama farm? If you’re single, you don’t have to worry about convincing your boyfriend that being spit on is actually a sign of respect. You’re only responsible to number one so you’re able to change and grow more easily.

That’s all well and good. But what if you’re struggling to navigate the single life? Keep watching and I’ll tell you how to not only survive but thrive as a single woman.

First off, you should be proud of your singlehood. Being single isn’t a scarlet letter, especially these days. There are a million married women who would switch places with you in a second. The idea that unmarried women become “old maids” comes from a time when women were seen as having a “best before” date. Today we know that women’s value doesn’t come from their youth or good looks. Plus being ashamed of yourself isn’t going to make you any less single. Flaunt it and not only will it lead to increased confidence, it’s a nice way to let other people know that you’re available and interested in new things.

Second, take advantage of your freedom. Get in touch with yourself and who you want to be. While it’s obviously possible to do this in a relationship, it’s much easier when you’re single. When you’re in a relationship, you have a responsibility to your partner. You need to consider their feelings when you make decisions. As a single person, you only need to consider what you want and need and I think that’s powerful.

Third, connect with the people around you. One of the risks of being single is feeling lonely and isolated. But you don’t need a boyfriend to feel loved. You can get that social connection from friends, family and all sorts of social activities. This allows you much more social variety than a relationship does. And variety is the spice of life.

Fourth, travel alone. Travelling alone can change your life more so than almost any other activity. Get out of your home environment, take a break from work and from the people in your life, and try something new. The thing about solo travel is that you’re the only constant. This allows you to see who you are when you’re free from your normal routine. Plus, accents are sexy.


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