How to Help a Friend Struggling with Anxiety

At some point in life many of us will witness a person we are close to experiencing anxiety. It can be hard to watch a loved one, family member, or a friend suffer, and even harder to know what to do. Anxiety doesn’t display a one-size-fits-all symptom — everyone experiences it differently.

A great way to help is to just be there. To simply be present and allow them to explain how they feel can be incredibly cathartic for them. Don’t be too pushy if they would rather not discuss it as well. Being pushy is the farthest thing from support if it makes them uncomfortable. People who struggle with anxiety can’t simply “get over” their anxious thoughts and feelings so it would be quite invalidating to provide tips as a solution. Instead, you can just lend a hand, be present, and be connected with them.

It might seem like you’re not doing enough but when you are present and listening you are doing a lot. After a period of time of being that supportive person, you would probably develop some trust from that friend or loved one.

If anxiety is severely affecting daily way of life—whether at home or in the workplace—it may be worth seeking treatment. While professional help is recommended, timing is everything. Be considerate when raising this idea.

There are a range of support options available for you whether it’s individual counselling, support groups or online resources.

In my clinical work I utilise Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). It is an incredible approach to relate to someone struggling with anxiety and once you understand the ACT framework, you'll no doubt gain confidence in handling and helping them.

You can access my ACT in Depth online program (100% free) at:

neshnikolic.com/act-in-depth

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