How to Make Your Boyfriend Value You

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1. You don't appreciate what's easy. I’m not talking about easy in terms of sex. I’m talking about your attitude.

How easily are you persuaded? Are you easily controlled or are you making decisions on your own? Does he feel the boundaries that you set?

A guy would appreciate you when you have a strong frame. That’s why you’ve got to have clear set boundaries. A woman who doesn’t have boundaries is someone a guy doesn’t respect.

Write down things that you will and will not accept from a guy.

2. The need for validation. It’s not about how often you’re there, but how much you need validation.

Tell a joke because it’s funny to you. Men don’t appreciate women who do things just for him.

Become aware when you need validation.

3. Your decision to stick with what's in front of you. Some guys just aren't grateful. You have to see through the signs.

You want guys to appreciate you, but some guys just don’t appreciate the good things in life.

It’s not always about the tactics you use, but about the people you choose. You have options.

How do you allow a guy to appreciate you?

1. Be your own source of positive emotions. Don’t derive your happiness from a guy’s validation.

You do this by being present in the moment. Practice mindfulness. Learn how to find peace from within. Stop trying to find happiness from the outside.

Think about the things that make you happy and do them more often. Have different channels of happiness.

2. Have clear boundaries and stick to them BUT don't do it defensively. There's a HUGE difference.

Boundaries are about the things you do and do not accept.

When somebody crosses your boundaries, notice yourself getting defensive. As soon as you notice the defensiveness arising, observe it and then act.

3. Don't be so anxious or overly needy. Get in the habit of feeling, observing, then acting rather than feeling then reacting.

Before you act, feel the anger or defensiveness when someone crosses your boundaries. This makes you unsusceptible to your emotions.

If you have to say no, it’s not a defensive no but a happy no.

4. Create a better self-image. Read the book Psycho-Cybernetics. Ask yourself, ‘What would it look like if I was a woman who has boundaries, who is appreciated by guys, and who is non-defensive?’

See that image in your mind. Do that every day and the changes will happen.

5. Don't feed the need. When you don’t feel appreciated, you want to be appreciated by force.

You usually feed the need through becoming the need.

When you feel the need, observe it before you react. Put yourself in situations where you feel needy and observe them.

It’s not about what you should do to feel appreciated, but rather how you should see yourself. Don’t see yourself through the veil of emotions.

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