How to stop being Self-conscious around guys and be yourself

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Today, we'll be talking about how to stop being self-conscious around guys and be yourself. This is a question that I got that I find very interesting.

We do get self-conscious particularly around someone that we want to impress or if we're looking for a reaction. We don't get self-conscious around children, or people we have a good relationship with. We only get self-conscious around people we believe are judging us. It's because we've learned to associate pain with being judged.

All of this happens to people and it causes people to be inhibited particularly when they interact with people that they like. You could be cool and awesome around guys that like you but as soon as you liked the guy, you get self-conscious and scared. This is an issue that happens.

People believe they're confident because they only make sure they're in scenarios that they're comfortable with. As soon as there's some uncertainty, suddenly you'll see another side that will emerge from them. It's not that you're confident but you're making sure that the environment is correct so that you can feel that confidence.

The reason why people can't be themselves is because of pre-imposed barriers and those barriers are the judgments and the standards that are placed upon us by society. We have certain sides of us that we don't embrace, moments when we betray ourselves.

The simplest way to relax during a conversation with a guy is to notice your breathing. When you notice your breath, it requires an extra layer of concentration and that extra layer of concentration was once used by your thinking mind. Whatever you animate with your consciousness usually comes alive, it's your thoughts. Thoughts that begin calling other thoughts and begin to create an identity out of you. It becomes linked up to one big hairball of emotions.

The first step is observing the fear and being comfortable with fear. Notice the tightness and the pain that usually accompanies the desire to get approval. The motivating factor is pretty much where the changes occur but we're not used to looking at it because there's so many distractions, so many quick fixes, so many easy promises but so little solution.

At the end of the day, it's not what I say that works. It's what you do and what you apply for yourself.

Here's a link to the article version: mindfulattraction.org/blog/2019/7/30/how-to-sto…

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