Mail your save the dates. The basic rule of thumb is to send save the dates 6 months before the wedding. For a destination wedding, it is customary to mail save the dates 8 to 12 months in advance. For a local affair, send save the dates 4 months in advan

Not Sending Them. Yes, this counts as a mistake. Although you don't have to send save-the-dates (if you're having an especially short engagement, it might make more sense to simply send out invitations), you're typically doing yourself a disse

When to Send Save-the-Date Cards . These little cards can be sent as early as six to 10 months out. If you’re having a destination wedding, you may want to send it a year before the event. It allows guests to mark the date on their calendars, ask for ti