How to STOP attracting bad relationships (and START attracting your ideal relationship)

"Welcome back to another video. My name is Aaron, and I help people expand their consciousness. Now in this video I'm going to be sharing with you why you might attract bad relationships, and understanding what you can do to change that pattern that might be going on.
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"Now sometimes you'll see this with people, is they will be in a relationship, that relationship might end, and then maybe a year later, maybe even a couple months later, they'll be in a new relationship but it will be a very similar-type situation with the very similar type problems going on. Maybe even that person is kind of similar to the way the person was before.
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"Realize that a lot of times we don't necessarily attract what we want, but we attract who we are being. Now this doesn't mean that we are a negative person or that we need to beat ourselves up because we're attracting a negative relationship. But understand that who we're being in this moment is many times shaped around our definitions of who we are, shaped from the beliefs that we have about who we are, and that those subconsciously may be, in a way, influencing the kind of people that we attract ourselves to.
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"With this, it becomes understanding that we must redefine who we are and we must get to the core of those subconscious beliefs, let them go, then we can actually start to attract who we prefer because we change who we are being.
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"Now I know that I talk about this a lot, but changing our subconscious beliefs because our beliefs are creating our reality is the most powerful thing that we can do to change the reflection that we're getting in our life. In order to do this, and I have other videos that go a little bit deeper into this idea, but the main way that we do this is that we see that sometimes we might have a belief about ourselves that says I'm not worthy, or only this type of person will love me, or I'm not good enough, or this is the only way that somebody will love me, is if this what I have to give them. It becomes almost like a manifestation of the emotion that we're in and the way that we feel about ourself that then we see that that's how other people treat us. This is why it is so important to get to the subconscious beliefs and to let them go.
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"Now the way that we do that is we realize that a lot of times the beliefs that we have about who we are came from a reference experience that happened years ago. That reference experience could have been something that happened when you were eight years old when you were told ... or maybe you even saw your mom be treat a certain way by your dad, or your step-dad, or something like that. From that you assumed that that's normal in a relationship. Because of that, it began to shape what you thought you were worthy of and the way that you think.
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"What you can now begin to do is get to the core of what that reference experience was. How do you know that reference experience? Normally, when you start to ask yourself the question, "What would I have to believe is true to keep attracting this?" your brain will then start to find the answer. It will bring certain memories into your mind. If you see a memory of when you were a kid, it's a very prominent memory of someone talking to you a certain way or making you do something you didn't want to do, or then made you feel like you were only worthy for a certain thing, that's when those beliefs began to start.
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"The moment you become aware of it, you can then decide and realize that that's not who you are anymore. It was just on autopilot because you weren't aware of it. But now that you're aware of it, you can simply choose to let it go. This process is really just that simple.
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"The moment you become aware of it, and because now you're becoming aware of those subconscious beliefs, you are beginning to change the way that you view yourself. As you change the self-image you have about who you are and how and who you're being in the moment, you will then start to attract the person that resonates with the new version of yourself.
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"I'm always hammering in on this point that we don't attract what we want, we attract who we are being. You must let go of those patterns, let go of those habitual ways of thinking, of how you define yourself to be. As you let those go, you'll start to become the version of you that's most likely going to attract who you actually want. The way that you get rid of these bad relationships of what you don't prefer is by changing yourself in the present moment. The way you change yourself is by simply letting go of the beliefs that don't serve you.
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"Now sometimes we'll also have these definitions about how we define ourself to be. We'll say, "I only attract guys that treat me this way. All guys are douchebags. All guys just want this from me. All ... "


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