How to Manage Toxic Relationships - Terri Cole - Real Love Revolution

Do you have any relationship in your life (romantic or platonic) that keeps you off-balance? People who seem to always be surprising you with negative curveballs, raising your anxiety for no apparent reason, and just leave you feeling badly about yourself?

If you answered "yes" to the above questions, you are in a toxic relationship, and this could be your partner or even just your friend, sibling, boss, etc. Even if someone is in a power position over you, like a boss, you can still draw appropriate boundaries. This requires you deciding how you will be in the relationship, not by changing the other person.

In this video, I cover:
● Signs of a Toxic Relationship
● How to Change a Toxic Relationship
● What Part You Play in the Relationship Dance
● How to Muster the Courage Required to Change Toxic Relationships

Some of the signs that you are in a toxic relationship include a hostile atmosphere where one of you is constantly angry; the person is an energy vampire requiring a lot and give very little, leaving you feeling exhausted; or someone who is constantly judging you. Another clear sign is poor communication, feeling that no matter how you respond you always feel blamed for not responding appropriately or correctly. In these types of relationships, there's never-ending drama. There's a lot required from you, even if you don't want to give it.

If we are related to people who are toxic (unlike toxic friends who you can break up with), it becomes complicated. You can't change the other person, but all relationships are a dance, so you can change your steps in the dance and see how it changes the relationship. To change your 50% of the dance, you could start by having the courage to kindly tell the other person how you feel, keeping in mind that they are most likely doing what they are doing, unconsciously.

As I said before, even if it's your boss, you should be able to assert yourself - being assertive is the healthy place in between being too passive and being too aggressive. Assertive doesn't have a lot of heat, just a firmness that feels good. By speaking up respectfully and making a simple request, you can be happy with your part of the dance. You will have decisions to make about that relationship if you stepping up inspires a more unhealthy response from the other person but at least your side of the street is clean.

Download the cheat sheet at the bottom of this page (terricole.com/manage-toxic-relationships) so you can begin to surround yourself with more healthy, happy relationships.

TIME STAMPS:
0:00 - Introduction
1:30 - Signs you are in a toxic relationship (or friendship, or work situation)
8:20 - Strategies for managing a toxic relationship
11:13 - How to end a toxic relationship

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How to Avoid Covert Manipulation and Control: youtu.be/fz9owuVN49k

ABOUT TERRI COLE:
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and global leading expert in female empowerment. For two decades, Terri has worked with some of the world’s most well-known personalities from international pop stars to Fortune 500 CEOs.

She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com/

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