How To Be Assertive - Not Aggressive

Setting boundaries - essential if you're in a toxic relationship - is a lot harder if you don't know how to be assertive. Being assertive without being aggressive takes practice.

In this episode of Transform Your Relationships - my regular tuesday livestream collaboration with coach Laura Rubinstein - we talked about the finer points of getting your point across without being aggressive, whiny, bitchy or other negatively perceived things.

Being able to firstly KNOW what your boundaries are is critical.
See my podcast episodes on boundaries for more:
"Why too few boundaries allow too much drama"
youtube.com/watch?v=VOXY6AAYwvI&t=49s
"Have you given up your boundaries?"
youtube.com/watch?v=Zs4BgPuKeps&t=141s

And, actually, here's my whole playlist on boundaries:
youtube.com/watch?v=Y0p8QAF3KhM&list=PL6StD…

But back to being assertive without being aggressive. ..
Why is that important? Firstly, it's because as soon as you become aggressive about it, the other person stops listening. Think about it... when someone speaks to you aggressively, or in a tone or manner that feels like an attack, or puts you on the defensive... do you want to listen any more? Nope. You don't. It's natural. Nobody likes to be attacked.

You want to state your boundaries in calm, clear language that isn't heightened with yelling, or swearing, or put-downs or accusations.

Listen in while we talk about the finer points. Then go start practicing.

* * Always remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * *
and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... from your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker.

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