How To Overcome Loneliness? | Melissa Alexandria

I share some strategies for overcoming loneliness in response to a question from Instagram: "What is the best way to overcome loneliness? and how is it possible to overcome the fear of sleeping alone?"

I think loneliness is something many people experience at some point. I know I have... and there are many different types of loneliness, you can be lonely for friendship, lonely even when surrounded by people if you feel that you're not accepted by them or that they don't "get you" - but for the sake of this video, and by the fact that you spoke about sleeping alone, I'm going to assume that you mean lonely for a romantic partner.

The first thing I'll say is that one thing you do have control over is to change your perspective. Generally when we have a fear of something, we tend to assume the worst - which makes the current moment seem even worse... for example, we might assume that we'll feel this way forever and scary thoughts like "what if I never find the right partner and I'm lonely forever? What if I have to sleep alone for the rest of my life? What if I never find a group of friends who understand and accept me?" etc... Those thoughts might be subconscious, but if they're there, they will definitely make your current experience of loneliness feel even more intense. It's all just fear, fear, fear and it results in feeling bad.

So, I would first start to look at what you're experiencing now as a chapter of your life...a phase, because life is constantly in motion and constantly changing... so there's no need to fear things being as they are forever...

Another thing that might help to change your perspective with this time of loneliness in your life is to ask what the benefits of it are... what can you learn during this time? Alone time is so important in personal development - it's a great time to reflect upon your decisions, try new things and decide what types of relationships you want in the future... to get extremely clear about what you do want. I, personally, was single for 4 + years before I met Alex and I really value and cherish that time - especially looking back now... at the time, I had moments of loneliness for sure... but I can see now how important that stage of my life was in developing into the person I am today.



I hope you found this to be helpful.

Have a beautiful day. Sending you lots of love and friendship and hugs through the screen.

xx Melissa

Movie mentioned: "Under The Tuscan Sun" Starring Diane Lane
Neville Goddard Book I Recommend:
"The Power Of Awareness"

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