How to (REALLY) Set Your Relationship Standards and Attract the RIGHT Man

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If you do want to have high standards for the people you surround yourself with, and of course, the men you end up in a relationship with, I've got some advice that's a bit different.

My goal with this video and article is to help you establish high relationship standards to attract true love...not to settle.

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How to Actually Set Your Relationship Standards and Attract the RIGHT Man #1. People Standards

If you're fighting, you've lowered your standards.

Think about the people you choose to invest your time in. In general, you'd like to think you have pretty high standards. Your friends are rock stars, so why would you lower your standards when it comes to the men you date?

The lowering of your standards is a gradual chiseling away. It's a slow process.

Your standards might creep down slowly. At first, you ignore how much he drinks because, hey, you like your bubbly too. You might choose to ignore what pig he is to waiters when you're out together. And before long, you look at the list of things that you're deliberately overlooking, and that list is a lot longer than this guy's positive attributes.

Having high people standards doesn’t just mean weeding people out immediately...quite the opposite in fact. It means being open-minded at first to lots of different people, but being quick to leave a guy when you do find out that he’s not upholding the relationship standard you’ve set for yourself.

Rather than letting people slide initially, know the baseline of what you're looking for in a man. He should be kind. Witty. Maybe into travel or cooking (though those might be nice-to-haves). It really shouldn't matter what kind of job he has or what he drives because you know what? In the long run, those things can go away. But who he is as a person will never really change.

And if a guy starts out seeming great, don't necessarily assume that's the whole story. We tend to let people see more of who we really are over time, so you might learn in the weeks after you meet a man that he's not as perfect as he first seemed. The key is reminding yourself of those high people standards and realizing that he's never going to meet them.

3:58 How to Actually Set Your Relationship Standards and Attract the RIGHT Man #2. Relationship Standards

Always have high standards for the relationship you're in.

For the second aspect of having high standards, we look at relationship standards. Realize: you can have high people standards but low relationship standards.

Upholding your high relationship standards means you might have to leave a really great guy because he's not what you need (nor are you what he needs). It can be tough, and it can hurt both of you, but it's better to end the relationship now before you lower your relationship standards any further.

Make a list of those relationship standards, if it helps to keep them in the forefront of your mind. When you're dating a new guy, refer back to that list. Is he hitting the mark on most of them, or have you already started lowering your standards?

The bravest thing you'll have to do is end it with a man who isn't meeting either your people standards or your relationship standards. He may not understand why you're ending what he sees as a great thing. But the fact is: he may have lower standards. Or, you're wonderful, so of course, his standards are getting met! But still: be true to yourself and your own needs. That's the only way you will find true love.

In Part 2 of this article, I give you 5 questions to ask a guy on a date to find out if he’s good for you so you don't have to waste a single second on the wrong guy who doesn't meet your relationship standards! Thing is...I can only offer this exclusive content to my Sexy Confident members. No worries: you can join here.