How to Write a Sympathy Card

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Sympathy is a delicate matter and must be handled with sensitivity and restraint. Learn to write a card to the grieving conveys respect and extends loving support.

Step 1: Keep it short
Acknowledge the person's loss and express sympathy and condolences. Draw from personal experience, keep the card short, and write simple sentences.

Step 2: Avoid platitudes or advice
Avoid platitudes in the letter -- judgmental observations or religious commentary are not appropriate. Also, avoid suggesting what the person "should" feel.

Tip
Don't get into graphic depictions of the event or a recitation of your own reaction upon hearing the news.

Step 3: Offer to help
Make a heartfelt offer in the message to help in any way you can, but leave the details up to them.

Step 4: Be sincere, not intrusive
Resist the temptation to say "I know how you feel." Be sincere about your feelings without rambling.

Step 5: Use humor
Use humor, but be careful. Under certain circumstances, light humor can ease pain, but be certain you're not misunderstood.

Step 6: Close with promised support
Close with an honest encouragement to heal, and reassurance of your continued love and support.

Did You Know?
Americans buy nearly 7 billion greeting cards each year -- almost $7.5 billion in retail sales.