How to Be a Safe Place for Your Man Emotionally

WAYS I CAN BE A SAFE PLACE FOR MY MAN (with the power of the Holy Spirit, of course)

Note - this is not intended to be a list of rules, but rather, a snapshot of how my life can be as the Spirit transforms me to become the woman He calls me to be.

1. Get rid of anything that is emotionally scary on my end of the relationship (more detail below).

2. Smile my beautiful smile often.

3. Use a pleasant, friendly tone of voice whenever possible.

4. Watch my body language, let it speak warmth, love, and respect.

5. Be kind, gentle, and polite.

6. Share my needs and feelings with humility, authenticity, and vulnerability in direct ways.

7. Don't share the private things he shares with me with other people - be trustworthy.*

8. Honor his God-given leadership in the family as appropriate.

9. Use my influence authority wisely.

10. Honor his authority as a dad.

11. Give him space respectfully when he needs it.

12. Seek to understand his unique masculine world, celebrating that men are different from women in some ways and that is part of God's good design.

13. Take my thoughts captive for Christ first before having a negative emotional conversation.

14. Be aware of PMS, hormone issues, exhaustion, illness, etc... where the body is weak - and consider whether it is a good time to try to emotionally connect or to talk about negative things.

15. Be content and peaceful in Christ. My genuine peace and joy are huge gifts to him.

16. Be filled up to overflowing with Christ - that is the only way to have that beautiful gentle, peaceful spirit that does what is right and does not give way to hysterical fear.

17. Reward him when he shares with me emotionally and make it enjoyable for him.

18. Limit the amount of time I ask for emotional connection if that is tiring for him or he is stressed/exhausted, etc...

19. Receive good things from him - compliments, gifts, time, attention, affection, attraction, sex, etc... - graciously and joyfully.

20. Have a spirit of gratitude toward him.

21. Be willing to extend grace, mercy, and forgiveness in a godly, healthy way.

22. Be responsible with financial decisions.

23. Be interested and open to his wisdom and ideas.

24. Give him my full attention when he is talking whenever possible.

25. Enjoy him and rest in his love.

Most people would appreciate these kinds of things and would feel more safe in a relationship that is like this - including many women. :)

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