How to influence people who are close to you

How to Influence People who are Close to you (without damaging the relationship)
* What do you do to influence a behaviour of your child?
* How do you speak to a friend with an addiction that is affecting their life?
* How can you help a family member with a poor habit that is affecting their quality of life?

Michael Pendelton of Yale University has spent many years looking at how families can intervene in the life of a loved one with an addiction problem and achieve lasting positive change. He has shown that long term, forcing change will not work.

There are 3 ingredients that are necessary to achieve lasting change in a person who is challenged with an addiction.

Let me know in the comments below what you think of Michael's influencing strategy?  Is it realistic?  Can you see it working in your relationships?