How To Admire People Without Envy - Happiness Vlog

It's hard not to compare ourselves to other people, but if we can separate admiration from envy, we wouldn't be comparing - we'd be inspired. X

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To Read:

So many of us worry about not being good enough.

Yet so many of us don’t really worry about being better.

There is a difference between the two: when we worry about not being good enough - not smart enough, nor pretty enough - we are comparing ourselves to people.

When we’re focusing on being better - we’re comparing ourselves… with us.

When we worry about not being good enough, we feel all this pressure to be perfect and it stresses us out, makes us less confident.

When we’re focusing on being better, there’s no pressure to be perfect because you know your standards aren’t measured by perfection but progress.

We’re looking at our own benchmarks and we’re just charting how much progress we’ve made and. not looking at other people charting what progress they’ve made and how we are compare to them!

When we’re comparing ourselves to people, we’re wasting so much energy and resources into looking at the ‘competition’, energy and resources that could have gone into making ourselves better.

Role models are amazing, they inspire us in the way they live, the way they look or what they’ve achieved. But it’s completely possible to have admiration without envy.

Admiration is looking at someone and thinking “I want to be like that. I can be like that”. Envy, is looking at someone and thinking, “He or she is too awesome, I can never be like that.” One gives you hope, and the other is you battering your own confidence.

Envy leads to jealousy, which in a way is a self-fulfilling prophecy of what you think you can never be. But admiration leads to action, with you taking control of the fact that your life is up to you to shape.

It’s knowing that you can emulate the traits of the people you admire, but you don’t need to BE that person. Because you’re you, and as cheesy as it sounds, you are unique.

There will always be people better than you are, more privileged you are or have better circumstances than you, just like there will always be people who are worse off than you are, are less privileged and have worse circumstances.

Don’t envy people, because it only makes us a victim of circumstance. Admire people because it empowers us to be whoever we want to be despite our circumstance. Choose the path that makes you feel most grateful, and be happy, always.

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