How To Be More Self Aware

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The thing that gets in most people's way of achieving their hopes, goals and dreams more than anything else in their entire life is, paradoxically, themselves. And the problem is that they can't see how they're doing it because they lack self-awareness. Now, this is a question that I wish I got more often — "How do I be more self-aware?" — because without self-awareness, you can't see your own failures and shortcomings and you'll have no way to catch your own blind spots which means that in certain areas of your life you're gonna run in circles giving rationalizations and excuses for why you're stuck and missing the real point which is why in this video I want to give you some mindsets and exercises to increase your level of self-awareness and get out of your own way.

The first mindset that is absolutely essential is to recognize that in your life, the person who is most likely to lie to you beyond anyone else is yourself. We have some very, very complicated booby traps up here; we have ego defense mechanisms that want to keep us — A — safe from a survival perspective but B — safe from a self-image perspective. So if we get evidence if we behave in a way that doesn't suit our self-image and we don't like the story that it creates about us, we tend to discount that evidence.

0:39 You're more likely to lie to yourself
1:39 Put honesty before integrity
2:30 Give yourself permission to live in paradox
5:30 Go to people you know well
7:00 Give yourself space

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