How to Stop Yourself from Contacting Your Ex

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Hello everyone, it’s author and relationship coach Brad Browning here. And today, I’m going to talk about how to stop yourself from contacting your ex. I know I talk a lot about not contacting your ex on my YouTube channel and articles, but again, it is a very powerful tactic. However, for many people, it’s not the easiest tactic in the world to do! I’m sure you’ve spent nights contemplating what you could say to your ex right then and there, so it takes a lot of self-control to actually pull this off well.

As I’ve mentioned before numerous times on this channel,it’s always best to cut off the lines of communication between you and your ex if you’re trying to get him or her back. There are many benefits of this — it will make your ex miss you, it will show her you’re strong enough to handle life after your ex, and it can also make them jealous. But, even though you may know all the benefits of not contacting your ex, the urge to talk to them can sometimes be quite overwhelming. Here are some tips and tricks to help you not contact your ex.

1. Put Down The Bottle.

Not surprisingly, one of the things that can totally ruin your self-control and lower your natural inhibitions is alcohol. If you really want to win back your ex, and you’re the type to ‘drunk dial’ after you’ve been into the adult beverages, then you really need to think about laying off the booze during your “no contact” period. This might seem like an unreasonable suggestion if you’re the type to use alcohol to numb the post-breakup pain, but a single drunken text message can really push your ex away and upset him or her... or worse, depending on what you’ve said. So, for your own sake, don’t overdo it on the liquor if you’re prone to drunk dialing your ex.

2. Delete Your Ex From Your Contact List.

Seems way to easy, right? Well, for starters, many people have their ex’s phone number memorized… which makes this a useless tip. But if you don’t have your ex’s phone number memorized, deleting them from your cell phone contacts list is pretty much the easiest way to stop yourself from contacting your ex.
Worried you might not be able to recover your ex’s phone number when the ‘no contact’ period is over and you want to contact her? Write your ex’s contact info on a piece of paper and give it to a trusted friend with instructions not to return the paper to you for at least a month.

3. Remove All Reminders

As you probably already know, after a breakup it’s wise to remove any visible reminders of your ex. Take down photos of you together, put stuffed animals and love notes in a box in the basement… do whatever it takes to remove any visible reminders of your ex from your immediate surroundings.
By eliminating reminders of your ex, you’ll help push him or her to the back of your mind, making it less likely you’ll feel the urge to contact them.

4. Train Yourself By Setting A Rule

Set a rule such as this: every time you think about contacting your ex, put a dollar bill in a piggy bank and remind yourself that not contacting your ex is the best way to get him or her back.
Other people prefer more painful or irritating self-reminders… for example, any time you reach for your phone to text your ex, poke yourself in the eye. Or do pretty much anything that’s unpleasant in the hopes that this action will remind you why it’s a bad idea to contact your ex for now.

My personal favorite? Each time you grab your phone and think about calling or texting your ex, send yourself a text saying “I must not talk to him/her!” instead.

5. Get Support From A Breakup Expert

AKA, me! If you want to learn more about my program and how you can help yourself from contacting your ex, then just go to BreakupBrad.com and watch the full-length presentation on that website. In it, I go over the 3 things you must do if you want to get your ex back.

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